Yoli Tamu, Mother-Daughter Bonding Strategist

Challenges and Distractions: Love Partnerships, Part 3

“The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you,
but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.” – Neale Donald Walsch

‘You complete me.” “I’m lost without you.” Heard these statements before?

Partnership in the name of LOVE! Love relationships are the ultimate test of understanding, communicating, trusting, and having compassion for another. Our significant others offer great companionship and a pleasant distraction from the mundaneness that the world can sometimes offer, but truly this union is meant to help improve the incredible person you already are. Period.

When you choose to unite with another, it should be for the sole purpose of THRIVING together, NOT SURVIVING together. Many love relationships today seek to be complete by another as opposed to being heighted or INCREASED by another. What you lack inside yourself cannot be provided by someone outside yourself. That person can offer examples of how they solve problems, but ultimately how you live your life is up to you. How you choose to grow and improve is not the responsibility of another. Thriving in a relationship can only happen when two people are already complete. Their personal foundation was already established before they united. They’re ability to provide for themselves has already been proven. Otherwise, the relationship becomes one of survival where one will constantly be required to pull the other up, and make up for what he/she was unable to accomplish on his/her own. This survival mode sounds loving, but it is actually enabling behavior that also causes hidden resentment.

Survival mode relationships hope for the best and hope everything will work out without EQUALLY being proactive in the relationship for each other. Thriving relationships already have personal safety nets in place for both parties individually to weather unforeseen storms without a dramatic set back that the two of them can’t handle.


So, when you choose to unite with someone in a love partnership, do yourself a huge favor and make sure you are your own safety net. When your prince charming arrives, you will be able to ride into the sunset side by side, instead of hoping to be carried away. After all, isn’t that what a true partnership really looks like?

Stay tuned next week for the conclusion, Part 4 of “Challenges and Distractions: Drugs and Alcohol”. In the meantime, let me know what you think about love partnerships and how they impact the REAL you below…

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